‘Inspo’ Overload
With a world of inspiration at our fingertips, there can become a fine line between feeling inspired and comparing yourself, doubting yourself. There is a beautiful and positive side to immersing yourself in all of this inspiration, but sometimes without even knowing it, negative thoughts about ourselves can be forming.
We live in a time that asks SO much of our self-esteem. How to stay strong, trust ourselves and our choices when every time you look at a screen you are basically put in a position to compare yourself. Its human nature, it’s in all of us to feel this way, so it’s a tough challenge to protect ourselves from the bad thoughts while still appreciating what the shared world of inspiration can bring us.
I have a platform where my home may act as a source of inspiration to others and I am forever grateful to offer that. The positive response I receive is so appreciated and inspires me as well. But I also love the chance to encourage people to look inward for inspiration when creating their space. Because I build more from a feeling than a visual, I see it as such a special part of your space. That’s something that comes from within. If you had an idea, saw a piece of furniture, art, etc. that immediately gave you that excited feeling then that’s the feeling you want to bring into your home. It can be too easy for us to then jump onto design platforms, see something different and think what you loved maybe isn’t ‘trending’ and then talk yourself out of it. There is no point in falling in love with a space that will never be yours.
I find that I go into ‘protection mode’ to help me battle the self-doubt that comes along with the world of inspiration. I am human, I have not mastered a strong enough self-esteem to “not care”, so I like to surround myself with sources that I can draw inspiration from that isn’t a direct comparable to my situation. I love flowers and fashion. I can feel so inspired by textures, colour palettes and juxtapositions that come from these sources that it usually contributes to many of my interior choices. And in the process, I’ve appreciated it as true inspiration because it inspired me to recognize what I love in it, and still execute it into a form that I created for myself.
Sometimes maybe you just see a sofa and it’s exactly what you were looking for, perfect. But sometimes you are seeing more than an individual item and when trying to recreate it, the same loving feeling isn’t there. Recognize how much “you” infused into your space is really what gives you that wonderful feeling of home. Limit your world of inspiration to what makes you feel good, and pay attention to what it is that you are looking at that gives you the good feeling. And then anything you see that makes you frustrated that you don’t have it, cut it out of your visual world. It’s no longer inspiration. Let your home be you and own it because it’s a really special thing to give yourself.
Visual Prep
Interior decor talk: But how will it look in my space? - It’s very easy to fall in love with things that you see in a store, online, or in someone else’s space, but how it feels when you bring it into your home can be very different. Of course marketing tactics will show pieces in the most flattering way. You will see staged settings, colour selections grouped together like a lovely rainbow, online editing and lighting will be set just right, and so on. These are all powerful tricks on the eyes which doesn’t just sell an object, its selling a vision. The hard part is focusing on the piece you like, cutting out the surrounding visuals, and thinking about it in your space.
Everyone has a different mind when it comes to visualizing. Not everyone can just look at a piece, take it out of context and have a good sense of how it will fit into your own space. Just like the attractive marketing tricks might sell us on it, I use tricks inside my own home to help me feel more confident of how it will look and feel if it were in my space. For bigger changes I find it very helpful to start with a clear area. So whether new furniture, art, or decor, if you clear the space in your home just enough to take any other major objects out of your line of sight, it will let you help visualize a new piece much easier. Because now your eyes aren’t focused on what’s already there which can distort your image.
When you add or change design in your home, it has a big impact on how the entire space then feels. You won’t be looking at just the individual item, you will be looking at it amongst everything that surrounds it. So thinking about your line of sight is so important. It means thinking about the surrounding colours, scale and lighting. To prep for this I like to create a comparable, ‘mock’ setup and live with it before I bring in a new piece. For scale it can be as simple as tracing out the dimensions of a piece and finding something in the home that can be shaped to a similar size, this way your eyes can get used to the presence of the piece and the room it will take up when you add it. Its less about checking the dimensions and making sure something will “fit”, but feeling it in your space and how it impacts the room an scale of its surrounding area. Changing colour palettes is a huge impact on your space. New colours for fabric furniture, bed linens, it changes the whole feel of the room and can be the hardest to anticipate. For this, I almost always have something in the house that can help me visualize a new colour palette before I commit. I have laid out clothing on the floor to create a fake bed set which lets me see different colours together and also how it will look in my room, I have taped sweaters on my wall that may be a similar colour or shade to new art I am considering. And even when you don’t have anything exact, the biggest impact comes from changing dark to light, light to dark. So maybe you have a dark sofa today, considering a lighter colour then throw a white sheet or light towels over it to let your mind absorb the change.
Visual prep can be simple tricks, but it plays a huge part in avoiding the dreaded disappointment of falling in love with something, but being underwhelmed when it’s brought into your space. When shopping around you can’t buy the feeling that comes with design in your home, so with some prep you can help translate the image into how it will feel bringing you one step closer to confidently choosing what’s right for your home.
